Planning the Wedding Planners’ Wedding

Planning the Wedding Planners’ Wedding

18 years – that is a long time to know someone and it is certainly long enough to know that you want to spend the rest of your life with them.  Marrying your best friend certainly is a dream come true.  Couples like us are sometimes hard to find.  We consider ourselves to be very lucky and we can honestly say that we are happily in love!  We live together, own a business together, have two fur babies together, have worked 1,500 weddings together.  WOW – did I just say that?  That’s a lot of weddings!  

So the opportunity to plan our own wedding has finally arrived.  After an amazing vacation to Mexico with a romantic proposal during a private dinner on the beach, what more could a girl want?!?

…a Fabulous Wedding of course!

But can a wedding planners’ wedding still be special?  Will it be a piece of cake?  Will it be fun?  Will we have time to plan our own wedding while planning and coordinating dozens of other couples’ weddings?  We are dying to find out!

My fiancé James and I have been in the wedding industry for 18 years – EACH!  We have done big weddings, small weddings, high-end custom weddings and complete DIY weddings.  We have been a part of Indian weddings, Jewish weddings, Italian weddings, Ukrainian weddings, Mexican weddings and pretty much any other wedding you can think of.  We have planned, set-up, cooked for, decorated, served, coordinated and even almost officiated wedding after wedding after wedding.  We have planned engagement parties, showers, rehearsal dinners, farewell brunches, bachelor and bachelorette parties.  We have been florists, DJ’s, therapists, decorators, bartenders, hairdressers, dry cleaners, seamstresses, drivers, bridal party members, etc., etc., etc., to hundreds of couples through the years.  

Now it is time to be a bride and a groom – probably the only thing that we haven’t done!

I decided to write this blog series as an interesting perspective – maybe almost even a guide- for planning a wedding.  Sure you can get millions of ideas from good old Google, Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook and so on.  I’m not knocking the internet or social media – I use it too (obviously…I am writing a Blog…LOL).  But where can you find better advice and ideas than from wedding planners who are planning their own wedding?  This is first-hand knowledge and insight as to how and what we plan, challenges we face, our decision making process and step-by-step how we put it all together.  I will also give you the brutally honest truth about the “fun vs. not-so-fun” aspects of this process.  

Have I got your attention? =)


So let’s start at the beginning - announcing that we are engaged.  We are skipping over James’ painful ring selection process, planning of the engagement and trying to keep a secret from one of the nosiest people alive.  Let’s just say he got an A+, 5 Gold Stars and Man of the Year Award.

So back to the announcement.  We were very careful to tell everyone that was closest to us in person before making the “Facebook Official” announcement.  Trust me, you DO NOT want those closest to you learning about your engagement while scrolling through their new feed.  This is very dangerous and can cause stress – we hate stress.

Anyway, of course we get the “Jeez – it’s about time” reaction from friends, the happy tears from the moms, the people that you haven’t spoken to in years that come out of the woodwork to get invited to a free party (let’s be honest this happens to almost everyone).  But our FAVORITE part is the recurring questions that only wedding planners would be asked…

  • Will you plan your own wedding or will you hire someone?  

  • Aren’t you so excited to finally plan your own wedding?  

  • Do you know exactly what you want since you have seen so many weddings?

  • Do you get good deals because you are wedding planners?

  • Will you have the best of the best for everything?

The answers are simple – we have no idea!  

The only thing we are sure of is that we have a strict budget (neatly typed up in my super helpful wedding budget Excel Workbook) that includes everything from food to favors to photographer to flowers and everything in-between - and we plan to stick to it!  

So stay tuned for the next phase of our adventure….

– finding the perfect venue (a.k.a. Venue 101)!